Comments on: 10 Bastardly Break-Up’s http://thedatingpapers.com/10-simple-ways-to-break-up/ smart tips, better dates Mon, 08 Mar 2010 12:50:04 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Seth http://thedatingpapers.com/10-simple-ways-to-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-894 Seth Mon, 02 Mar 2009 03:00:29 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=68#comment-894 @Neal - profoundly unwise? Read the title: "bastardly break-ups". Why do it in public if you're not trying to exercise that "revenge muscle"? Yes, make a clean break. You're talking my language now. Re: how to get over an ex. @Neal – profoundly unwise? Read the title: “bastardly break-ups”.

Why do it in public if you’re not trying to exercise that “revenge muscle”?

Yes, make a clean break. You’re talking my language now. Re: how to get over an ex.

]]> By: Neal http://thedatingpapers.com/10-simple-ways-to-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-893 Neal Mon, 02 Mar 2009 02:49:27 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=68#comment-893 The problem with these ideas is that they require you to exercise the revenge muscle. You would have to have been a victim somehow to want to do any of these. And the best thing for a victim to do is to just walk away. Do not lower yourself by doing these. They sound clever, but they are profoundly unwise. Clean, straightforward breaks are always the best for everybody. There's a tried and true way of breaking up. Do it in person. Do it in public. Be straightforward. Make a clean break. The problem with these ideas is that they require you to exercise the revenge muscle. You would have to have been a victim somehow to want to do any of these. And the best thing for a victim to do is to just walk away. Do not lower yourself by doing these. They sound clever, but they are profoundly unwise. Clean, straightforward breaks are always the best for everybody.

There’s a tried and true way of breaking up. Do it in person. Do it in public. Be straightforward. Make a clean break.

]]> By: Seth http://thedatingpapers.com/10-simple-ways-to-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-50 Seth Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:20:14 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=68#comment-50 I suppose its possible that you might hate yourself after breaking up. Most people experience a range of feelings after ending a relationship. Self-loathing certainly might be one of those feelings. As far as getting over oneself, I think that's a slower process that comes with dedication to open dialogue, humble honesty, and a willingness to greet other ideas, opinions, and people with open arms. Unfortunately, once you've gotten over yourself, it'll be much harder for other people to get over you. They'll be so sad you left! Seth I suppose its possible that you might hate yourself after breaking up. Most people experience a range of feelings after ending a relationship. Self-loathing certainly might be one of those feelings. As far as getting over oneself, I think that’s a slower process that comes with dedication to open dialogue, humble honesty, and a willingness to greet other ideas, opinions, and people with open arms. Unfortunately, once you’ve gotten over yourself, it’ll be much harder for other people to get over you. They’ll be so sad you left!

Seth

]]> By: Johan Lont http://thedatingpapers.com/10-simple-ways-to-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-49 Johan Lont Mon, 01 Dec 2008 10:51:21 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=68#comment-49 How awful. Maybe these methods can make the other hate you and more quickly get over you, but actions like this might also make you hate yourself. And how in the world would you get over yourself? How awful. Maybe these methods can make the other hate you and more quickly get over you, but actions like this might also make you hate yourself. And how in the world would you get over yourself?

]]> By: Seth http://thedatingpapers.com/10-simple-ways-to-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-22 Seth Sat, 22 Nov 2008 20:44:31 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=68#comment-22 I think the painful part is what makes the break-ups "bastardly" instead of just regular break-ups. The idea of a bastardly break-up is to create drama, suspense, insight angst, and keep the other person guessing. This would not be the kind way to break up, but it is an option. I think most relationships that reach the "healthy place" you speak of would either end in huge flames or on friendly terms. The former would benefit from my list. Thanks for the comment! I think the painful part is what makes the break-ups “bastardly” instead of just regular break-ups. The idea of a bastardly break-up is to create drama, suspense, insight angst, and keep the other person guessing. This would not be the kind way to break up, but it is an option. I think most relationships that reach the “healthy place” you speak of would either end in huge flames or on friendly terms. The former would benefit from my list. Thanks for the comment!

]]> By: Amy http://thedatingpapers.com/10-simple-ways-to-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-21 Amy Sat, 22 Nov 2008 14:46:10 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=68#comment-21 These ideas are theater-worthy, creative and intentional... but if I was on the receiving end, I would find them even more painful than an abrupt, "it's over between you and me." But if these measures are needed for some reason, then it probably signifies that the relationship never reached a healthy place of honest communication to begin with. These ideas are theater-worthy, creative and intentional… but if I was on the receiving end, I would find them even more painful than an abrupt, “it’s over between you and me.” But if these measures are needed for some reason, then it probably signifies that the relationship never reached a healthy place of honest communication to begin with.

]]> By: Laneris http://thedatingpapers.com/10-simple-ways-to-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-19 Laneris Fri, 14 Nov 2008 09:09:18 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=68#comment-19 If it was you who proposed to brake up the best way not to course pain to your partner is say lies about yourself that he or she feels more self-confident and blame you for everything. So you get rid of him or quickly and painless. If it was you who proposed to brake up the best way not to course pain to your partner is say lies about yourself that he or she feels more self-confident and blame you for everything. So you get rid of him or quickly and painless.

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