- You don’t understand what you’re dealing with. You wear jeans yourself but you know better than to try buying her a pair. Why ever would you try to pick out something based on a general approximation of size? You shouldn’t.
- Your concept of “great idea” lingerie is not hers. Yes, corsets are lovely to look at and do amazing things to proportion…try before you buy, Mr!
- You lose the element of surprise. If you’ve already been to the store, seen it in a magazine, or purchased it online, you have an idea of what it looks like.
The Solution?
Buy her a giftcard to a lingerie store she really likes. If you don’t know where she likes to shop but have access to her lingerie, the place that makes the lingerie she wears when she’s dressing is a place she’ll be glad to visit again. If you’d never consider shopping with a woman, reconsider for a lingerie shopping trip. Make sure you’ve already bought that giftcard. Even though it has your money on it, using a gift card feels like its free.
Valentine’s Day is coming up. If you want to get her some lingerie, give her a gift card a week or two early. She’ll love you for it and I dare say you’ll enjoy what your gift inspires.
Best to you!
Seth
Phot credit: sklathill
52 Comments
Nicky: It’s a great example of my point but I’m sorry it had to happen to you!
I hope you have a good one, too!
Thomas: This is why the ladies love you, man. Clean words in tight form. Awesome, man!
Henie: I don’t think it really matters. For the most part, once you’re down to lingerie, the color won’t matter for long anyhow!
I’m a big fan of earth tones… but that’s just me.
Best to all of you!
Seth
I agree with Melaine when she said buying lingerie is an “advanced relationship-level maneuver”. My father buys lingerie for my mother sometimes and they have 22 years old of marriage!
So that, a very high advanced level…
Great post!
i love the expression on the guy’s face in the photo!
the lingerie drawer can be a potential minefield in a relationship. your sense of humor and common sense in your solution is the best strategic solution for any man bold enough to consider lingerie as a gift.
this also works beautifully for women who buy lingerie for men. like me!
good stuff, seth!
There are some forms of lingerie that are classic.lovely.sensual.comfortable. E.g., silk charmeuse chemise and panties. Soft, satiny and very much welcomed. And enjoyable by Mr and Ms.
Hoong: I was ecstatic when I found it! =)
Diana: I think you are right. Something like a chemise is more forgiving when it comes to sizes, as well!
I want a big fuzzy bathrobe.
Yeah, I just said that. =)
Seth
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