Friend. I suppose that says it all, doesn’t it?

Thing is, women don’t generally want guys who aren’t their equals or better in some crucial aspects. I used to get upset about being a girl who usually ends up in the friend zone, but then I figured out that this was a kind of illusion.

Strong women who have it in perspective and aren’t overly pushy are the kind of women men have always wanted to marry. Because so many people are into casual sex or have the wrong ideas about dating and marriage, it looks like we’re being left out, but we’re not. We’re just not suitable for guys who aren’t ready.

When a guy comes along who is ready though, your life changes quickly, to say the least. When you meet that special guy (and there are many despite the hype), who sees you as a kitten even if you can bench press him or got better scores in maths, you find you were better off being yourself.

It really must have felt liberating for your date’s friends to know the truth about you, but she must have been at least a little upset about your announcement!

The part that concerns me is the texting over things the communication is over things he “can’t talk to you about.”

If it was work-related only, it wouldn’t be stuff he couldn’t talk to you about unless your husband has a job requiring a security clearance — and then texting about work would be illegal.

So, it would seem that the texts are of a personal nature. If it’s “nothing,” he should have no problem with showing you the text history.

Affairs don’t always have to be “anything physical” per se. You can talk a lot about sexual activity without ever touching someone… so that line of justification kinda raises a red flag with me. Why does it even have to be said if there isn’t a problem?

Highly recommend reading The Snare: Understanding Emotional and Sexual Entanglements by Lois Mowday Rabey .

Let us know how it goes, okay?

You are the only commenter with any integrity on here. I agree whole-heartedly with you. Cheating is a narcissistic’s way of having their cake and eating it, too. If you want to solve a problem, communicate, talk, and if you can’t agree, end it.

All you people who make excuses for cheating are dishonest and a disgrace to yourselves and everyone else in your relationships. You can have an open relationship, provided both of you have that understanding, but cheating behind someone’s back is just plain pathetic.