Comments on: Dating Disabilities: The Blind Girl

By: Seth

Seth — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 22:13:59 +0000

–I think Meredith would especially agree that her blindness has very much affected the way she communicates! Without the ability to see body language, the random things that entirely sighted couples laugh at, or even the menu at the restaurant we ate at, she is in a position in which nonchalant conversations can prove difficult at first. Does that clarify things more? Honesty is the best way to go. It can suck sometimes and there’s a chance that people will respond badly, but I try to make it a habit.

Seth–

By: Henie

Henie — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 21:59:30 +0000

Seth,

What a fantastic story! Meredith is blessed with an accuity of insight thru her sightlessness. You are fortunate to have experienced her gift first hand!

I am bemused when people comment on the fact that I wear sunglasses all the time just to be *cool*…truth be known, I am actually blind with minimal functionality in one eye…point is, not many people understand that it’s ok and blindness is a gift that unwraps other senses to their fullest.

I hope your frienship with Meredith continues to bloom for many lessons shared and learned.

Another *eye-opening* (pun intended) post! Thank you, Seth!

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Mon, 15 Dec 2008 15:09:15 +0000

[...] Thanks to Twitter I was introduced to the blog, The Dating Papers. Seth is the blogger’s name and saving you from dating pain is his game. In fact, he writes about his dating tales in a way that is very descriptive and thoughtful. I was especially touched by his post on Dating a Blind Girl. [...]

By: Seth

Seth — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 22:57:23 +0000

Karen: Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment! Meredith is a lovely, strong woman and I’m glad to count her as a friend!

Petra: You are more than welcome to date vicariously through me…so long as you are willing to share in the pain, frustration, and contemplation that comes before I learn the good lessons! Really though, I’m glad you stopped by. Thanks!

Seth

By: Petra

Petra — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 22:33:48 +0000

Very cool post. Thanks for following me on Twitter. It is cool to read about others’ adventures in the dating world since it has been so long since I have been out there.

Very well-written and insightful. I will be back!

By: Karen Kay

Karen Kay — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 18:42:00 +0000

Good for Meredith! She seems very strong, blindness or no. I’m thinking she’s a good catch! And the chocolate lab is beautiful! Thanks so much for sharing your story.

By: Seth

Seth — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 17:52:59 +0000

Are you one of those partners who insists on cleaning the living room during important games/races?

Knowing when exactly to say “yes, dear” and pick only those battles that really count for the long-term…is one of those skills you just can’t teach somebody. Sounds like you’ve found a winner!

Seth

By: Alisa Bowman

Alisa Bowman — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 17:36:24 +0000

Hey says, “Yes dear.”

Kidding. No I love him. He is a good listener, as long as the Florida v. Florida State game is not on. Or the Tour de France.

By: Seth

Seth — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 17:22:02 +0000

Hi Alisa!

Yes, I keep hearing that. I’m sure I’ll change the avatar eventually. Is the goat part of the street or the shady? =)

There’s a possibility that you’d have seen the “real” him had you been blindfolded. However, the majority of conversations we have with others end up being “mentally bookmarked” in accordance with the things we care about, not necessarily the things our partner feels are important. As such, if your husband is a good listener and asks questions that keep you talking about a subject in which you have great interest…he’ll come across as a great conversationalist.

Some people are most comfortable not being the talker and actually enjoy having their partner say most of the words. You’ve been married for 10 years? Certainly you must have forced your husband to say something by now! =)

Thanks for your comment!

Seth

By: Alisa Bowman

Alisa Bowman — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 17:05:38 +0000

Wow–great dating story. Your pix on Twitter makes you looks sort of street and shady, but you come off as the ultimate sweetheart in your blogs.

Which brings me to my point: maybe a lot of what we notice in the beginning– esp the visual stuff–is an illusion that prevents us from truly seeing a complete person. For instance I thought my husband was a great conversationalist when I met him. I have no idea why. After 10 years of marriage, I now realize that he’s a strong and silent as they come. Maybe he looked like a chatter box. If I’d been blindfolded, would I have seen the real him?