by Emma Frisoni
I recently had a girlfriend ask me for advice. A guy she met through work asked her if she’d meet up with him for dinner at a new restaurant opening in his neighborhood.
There’s just one issue: The guy seems pretty interested but my girlfriend isn’t especially attracted to him. I see two options for her:
- She asks if it’s okay if a friend comes along. (kinda smarmy – I know)
- She tells him that she’s not on the market right now but that she’d love to hang out and will quiz him a bit because she knows some available hotties that she might be able to hook him up with.
I like the latter best.
What do you think? I told her I’d have awesome advice for her before she sees him on Monday. Will you help?
Thank you!
Emma
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How Do You Tell a Guy Who’s Asked You On A Date That You’ll Go, But Only As Friends?
I’ve had the first option done to me before. It was last minute (driving to pick her up when she called) and I felt like she’d left me no option but to say, “sure, your friend can come along!” even though it wasn’t my first choice. So, yeah. You’re right about the first option not being classy.
The second works for me. I shy away from giving people concrete answers about the future when one has not really spent time with them yet. Gut decisions about “chemistry” are, for me, nearly always wrong.
Might just be me though. Glad to have you back!
or how about option 3 – don’t give the guy false hope and say thanks, she is flattered by the invite but no! Because if she goes on the date, no matter how she says she isn’t available, or only interested in a friendship the inviter is likely to think that acceptance is a maybe rather than a no! and how is that fair?
Do not go.
He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint…….
Benjamin…I have a good feeling you are 100% correct. But it sounds to me like this is a challenge, which I gladly accept. I’ll let you know how it goes.