Comments on: How Do You Tell a Guy Who’s Asked You On a Date That You’ll Go – But Only As Friends?

By: Emma

Emma — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 14:04:59 +0000

Benjamin…I have a good feeling you are 100% correct. But it sounds to me like this is a challenge, which I gladly accept. I’ll let you know how it goes.

By: Benjamin

Benjamin — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 19:14:40 +0000

Do not go.

He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint.
He will Not get the hint…….

By: J

Sun, 29 Nov 2009 00:04:17 +0000

or how about option 3 – don’t give the guy false hope and say thanks, she is flattered by the invite but no! Because if she goes on the date, no matter how she says she isn’t available, or only interested in a friendship the inviter is likely to think that acceptance is a maybe rather than a no! and how is that fair?

By: Seth

Seth — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 23:45:51 +0000

I’ve had the first option done to me before. It was last minute (driving to pick her up when she called) and I felt like she’d left me no option but to say, “sure, your friend can come along!” even though it wasn’t my first choice. So, yeah. You’re right about the first option not being classy.

The second works for me. I shy away from giving people concrete answers about the future when one has not really spent time with them yet. Gut decisions about “chemistry” are, for me, nearly always wrong.

Might just be me though. Glad to have you back!