If you are passionate about something, use that as your ticket to get on the train toward better, more fulfilling conversations.
How? Passion, in and of itself, is attractive. Remember Ethan Hunt in MI-3 in the evening party scene where he’s talking about dynamic traffic patterns and there’s a crowd of women hanging off his every word? That’s not just a movie trick. It’s not the topic but how you approach it that will make you attractive to others. With a few simple steps, you can begin to build your passion into something, if not magnetic, at least quite attractive!
Step 1: Know your stuff – It’s not enough to be excited about something. If you’re truly passionate about a topic, you’ll understand its inner workings and history. Find out some interesting stories that relate to your passion and memorize the particulars. NASCAAR is boring to a lot of people. But if you happened to know that the worst pile-up in racing history was caused by a driver who was hallucinating and stopped his car to “pick up passengers” because he thought he was driving a bus…now you’ve got a story worth telling. Everybody loves a good story. Even that sullen beauty across the bar will probably listen to a good story if you’ve got one.
Step 2: Incorporate humor – If you’re truly passionate about something, you’ve already run into at least one person who thinks you’re nuts for being so dedicated to one thing. That’s okay. You’re not trying to win over all the people in the world. Ignore the haters and always keep an active sense of humor, especially when it’s time make fun of yourself. Learn a few jokes that relate to your passion and a few extras that people tell making fun of people like you. Love wine? Learn some wine jokes as well as a few quips about people who love wine too much. (Yes, it’s said that loving wine too much actually IS a possibility!)
Step 3: Invite responses – Make a habit of inviting others to share about their passions. You might be surprised how many people collect spoons, skydive, and go on yoga retreats but feel funny about talking about it. Don’t let the conversation end with you sharing about your passion. You’ve told your stories and made others laugh. Now it’s their turn to reciprocate and give the “dirty” on what they like most in life. Worried that others will just stand and look at you strangely? Some might, sure. Most will pick up on the excited energy you’re exuding and participate in the conversation.
And that’s something to get excited about!
What are some of your passions? How do you go about sharing them with others?
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