Comments on: Moveable Types: Red Wine And Emo Girls

By: Seth

Seth — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 07:11:42 +0000

@z You are right, sir! When there’s enough good wine, interests often turn into positions! (forgive me, I felt compelled)

@Michelle it’s up! =)

By: bobby

bobby — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 01:58:21 +0000

Yep, good post. I believe the lady was secure enough with herself to accept that you may not be into her, but may have a friend that is. I’m not so sure that I would be that secure lol.

Oh, and I agree with Misty about the friends first point. I even posted a topic about it recently, “Why I don’t date.” I would love to get your opinion on this post Seth!

http://relationship-digest.com/2009/02/why-i-dont-date.html

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 18:50:57 +0000

I love this post Seth…friendship is infinitely valuable, and often overlooked in the rush of relationships.

Can’t wait to read what you write next.

By: zechariah aloysius hillyard

zechariah aloysius hillyard — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 09:32:18 +0000

I love that you used the word “interests.” When we overlook interests for positions (this girl is Emo, we have nothing to talk about), we often miss the opportunity to expand our network of friends, knowledge, and associations.

You continue to impress me Seth Simonds, your insight is both humble and profound. Please keep it up. Oh, and there can never be enough good wine….
z

By: Seth

Seth — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 06:46:44 +0000

@Uhura: I guess I wasn’t quite clear. I shared this story as an example of what it’s like to be on the receiving end of a friendly-flirty onslaught and how beneficial it can be if you respond well when turned down. Dory didn’t do a great job of reading me but when I let her know I wasn’t interested, she stayed positive and kept the conversation moving. It turned out I knew somebody who liked her very much. Ding, ding! Winner!

@Kelli THANK YOU for getting the movie reference. It’s nice to know I’m not entirely alone in thinking that was humorous. =)

By: kelli

kelli — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 23:02:50 +0000

Seth, you always make me smile. “Just keep swimming!”

By: uhura

uhura — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 19:42:52 +0000

I confess: I rock out to Fall Out Boy and am neither emo or introverted, nor wear skinny jeans or eyeliner. Admittedly I am often seen in a Penny Arcade hoodie, but I also live in Seattle – the hoodie is part of our overall casual uniform. I also enjoy red wine.

Great job listening to someone whom you didn’t think you had anything in common! Sometimes people can be wrong, tho – let’s not forget the adage about judging books by their covers.

By: Seth

Seth — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 21:09:47 +0000

Misty: Sure, a friendship can turn into a romance…aren’t those the best kinds? Being afraid to “ruin” a friendship often destroys everything in the long run. I’ve messed that up terribly before…new post? Yes. On it’s way.

Susie: Party sausages? =P You never cease to bring a smile with your bright witticisms!

By: Susie Blackmon

Susie Blackmon — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 09:54:16 +0000

Well, at least you didn’t make her think of party sausages. XXOO

By: Misty Belardo

Misty Belardo — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 08:29:01 +0000

Wow now i’ve seen the not so in the mood Seth. But I always feel that it is always better to become friends first and see shat happens. If it develops into a real relationship then well and good.. if not then its cool.

But mind you there can also be some repercussions. Like things become a bit awkward when friendship start to become romantic.. but as i always say, if you were meant to be more than friends it will happen naturally.

You know Seth, I think I would have reacted the same way you did if i were in that situation. Hate it when things are not natural and forced on you. Very cool post.. Can’t wait for the next : )