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First Date Ideas – 21 Ways To Win On The First Try

First Date Ideas – 21 Ways To Win On The First Try

You’re going on a first date with somebody special and you need some ideas of what to do? You’ve come to the right place! When I first started dating, my idea of a date was the stereotypical cheap-dinner-and-a-movie. Don’t hate on me, I didn’t know any better! By the time I finished high school I [...]

Too Late For Love – Part 1

Too Late For Love – Part 1

by Simon Cole The woman I love is marrying another man this weekend. I met Mariska at the start of our final semester in college. I’d made a mistake on my schedule and showed up for the wrong class. I walked through the lecture room door, surprised to see about 20 chairs arranged in a circle. She sat [...]

What Is The Right Age To Start Having Sex?

What Is The Right Age To Start Having Sex?

by Amelia Holzapfel My 13 year-old cousin recently asked me what I thought to be the right age for her to start having sex. Cousin: What’s the right age to start having sex? Me: What’s the right age to start having babies? Cousin: Um, probably 20 years old. At least not until you have a job you like.

How To Sleep Alone

How To Sleep Alone

Sleeping alone is nothing more than a necessary evil. There are few things more comforting in life than surrendering yourself to sleep in the arms of someone who loves you. If you’ve suddenly found yourself alone after being used to sharing your bed, the simple act of falling asleep can become a dreaded affair. Still, [...]

A Gay Male’s Take on Dating a Person with HIV

A Gay Male’s Take on Dating a Person with HIV

by Zeke Hillyard A lot of people think HIV is simply a “gay thing.” Therefore, a quick bit of mind candy: Over half the world’s HIV/AIDS cases are women. A simple math deduction demonstrates that there are a lot more heterosexual people with HIV than not. Because of that, this topic needs a more universal treatment. A [...]

After He Cheats

After He Cheats

15 September 2009

Have you ever had a partner cheat on you? Here’s my story: Smoke curling from the ashtray. Half empty glass of red. Cold rain soaking the window sills. Wrapped in my cashmere blanket. Tears mingling with apricot lip gloss. David Gray’s “We’re Not Right”. Hands shaking. How could he? How could I not have known? The cheap panties on [...]

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Posted in Breaking Up, For Girls11 Comments

Life After Divorce: Papers Not Yet Signed & She’s Already Dating My Friend!

Life After Divorce: Papers Not Yet Signed & She’s Already Dating My Friend!

27 August 2009

I need your help! Hi! I’ve (Seth) decided to begin answering relationship questions more often here on The Dating Papers. Some, like the one in this post, might fall into an area where you have experience and/or expertise. If that’s the case, please, please chime in with your thoughts and advice. All I ask is that [...]

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Posted in Breaking Up, Communication5 Comments

Is It Okay To Tell Her She Looks Fat?

Is It Okay To Tell Her She Looks Fat?

18 August 2009

by Sarah Joy Albrecht “Do I look fat in this dress?” Next to being asked to get snipped, this is the dreaded question that men fear most from women. How can he answer this loaded, Catch-22? If he answers “yes,” he’s in the doghouse. If he says “no,” he’s “not being honest” and God forbid a girlfriend points [...]

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Posted in Communication, For Guys, The Scoop14 Comments

Is My Partner Lying To Me? 5 Questions You Can Ask To Find The Truth

Is My Partner Lying To Me? 5 Questions You Can Ask To Find The Truth

04 June 2009

By Jef Nance, former police interrogator and author of the book Conquering Deception© How can you tell when somebody is lying to you? Deception abounds in media, business, and social circles, but it’s most destructive in personal relationships. Why? Because we’re most susceptible to deception from the people we trust most. Trust breeds comfort and causes us [...]

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Posted in Communication, The Scoop23 Comments

How to Survive A Break-Up: Chris Blake Puts It Back Together (with free music download)

How to Survive A Break-Up: Chris Blake Puts It Back Together (with free music download)

12 May 2009

How do you survive a broken relationship and learn to move forward with your life? I asked Alternative Rock musician Chris Blake to share his recent break-up experience. You can read his story below and listen/download his latest song “Happiness”. As most of my friends on Twitter know, I was recently forced to confront the break-up [...]

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Posted in Breaking Up6 Comments

3 Steps To Starting Successful Conversations

3 Steps To Starting Successful Conversations

09 May 2009

 ”Vincent in Boston” wrote in to ask:  “Seth, I saw the most incredible girl on the T (subway/metro) this evening. She had the greatest vibe. It wasn’t just that she was hot. Even the way she sorta-danced to the music (I assume) playing through her earphones had me hooked. How can I talk to women like [...]

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Posted in Communication17 Comments

How To Talk About Yourself: Attractive Passion

How To Talk About Yourself: Attractive Passion

07 March 2009

Are you passionate about something in your life? Really, truly passionate about it? Not just something you like. I’m talking about the sort of thing you prefer over everybody and everything else.  If you are passionate about something, use that as your ticket to get on the train toward better, more fulfilling conversations.  How? Passion, in and [...]

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Posted in Communication22 Comments

Knowing Your Limits: Fat Cats & Blueberry Pie

Knowing Your Limits: Fat Cats & Blueberry Pie

03 December 2008

One of my cardinal rules of effective dating is “Do not offer options when asking a prospective date about preferences. Get the information and make a plan.” I did not follow this rule when I asked Marianna out for the evening. Essentially, I let her plan the date and added my own twist as we [...]

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Posted in Dating Horror27 Comments

Knowing When To Run Vs. Masochistic Dating

Knowing When To Run Vs. Masochistic Dating

02 November 2008

I found myself strolling down a lamp-lit street sipping hot greasy dishwater topped with whipped cream. She was a perfectly built and initially charming redhead named Clarissa. I was back in my hometown for a few days and met her while picking up some groceries at the only grocery store in town. We had met [...]

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Posted in Dating Horror3 Comments

The Pig and The Jewish Girl

26 October 2008

So far, I’ve focused primarily on first dates. But what about when you move further into a relationship. What happens when you’ve been out many times? You know eachother’s friends. You’re just short of buying a second toothbrush to keep at his or her house because you stay over so often. I met Jessica at [...]

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Posted in Mixed Bag1 Comment