Comments on: So there IS such a thing as a stupid question: Are You Gay?

By: zechariah-aloysius hillyard

zechariah-aloysius hillyard — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 17:35:55 +0000

Being a gay one, and married at that, I bring it as normally into any conversation. I love when people talk about my “preference.” It becomes a game. I prefer to shop at Target instead of Wal-mart because of how Wal-Mart treats its employees locally and nationally. Being gay, at least for me, just is. It’s not parties and light stick raves, but resides inside med often takes place in our home in Las Vegas, with our four dogs, my brother who lives with us, and an occasional stray person that comes our way needing refuge.

Otherwise, my “preference” looks like this: Wake up. Make the Coffee. Start the Laundry. Do Homework> Go Volunteer. Work on trying to get things to grow in our back yard. Trips to the dog park. Cook dinner, talk with my husband about his day and then cuddle and do something personal, hit the sheets. Some times, we even have sex.

In short, although I love my life and my husband, it’s as typical as any typical marriage, and it’s a lot of work to keep it healthy and loving. We will have been married two years in July, and together 11 in October, and I still remember the first time we met fondly, and will stay with him until we are called apart by life.

The question “Are you gay” is jejune to the point of absurdity. Wake up and smell the 21st century! You’ll often know if someone’s gay–they’ll tell you. I can’t imagine asking people I’ve not seen, “Are you not gay?” Although the world might be better for it.

By: Faith Riichards

Faith Riichards — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 02:57:38 +0000

I know some fags, yes these guys call themselves that freely, that wouldn’t take an outward offencce to that question but…they also wouldn’t justlet it go. I love seeing the 2 of them inaction to when they are puttiing a ‘phobe in their place.

By: Sarah Joy Albrecht

Sarah Joy Albrecht — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:18:45 +0000

With you on this one. I hope she likes the creations of Edward Scissorhands!

By: Sarah Joy Albrecht

Sarah Joy Albrecht — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:17:50 +0000

Now you’re the one generalizing, Simon. People have all sorts of temperaments, regardless of their sexuality.

By: Simon Cole

Simon Cole — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 16:35:23 +0000

Some debate that. =)

Good use of “ignoramus.” =)

By: Simon Cole

Simon Cole — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 16:34:42 +0000

“You need to stop before somebody punches you in the face.”

Kinda paints a bad picture of the people I was trying to stand up for, eh?

By: Simon Cole

Simon Cole — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 16:32:57 +0000

If I say anything at all, it’ll be along the lines of telling her to ask the stylist.

By: Simon Cole

Simon Cole — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 16:29:23 +0000

Heya!

I hadn’t considered that as an option yet. Perhaps you’re onto something. I may end up someday realizing I’m completely gay and post a thank-you article to you for starting me on my new path!

Do you have any tips as to how I might further highlight my whining? Aside from graphic depictions to go with the writing, are there any writing-specific techniques you could suggest? Thanks!

Sooo, I might have been a bit sarcastic there, but your comment is excellent & I appreciate the insight. It is easy to get whiny about such things and that wasn’t my intent.

By: Kabeirus

Kabeirus — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:48:57 +0000

So what you’re saying is…you’re gay. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

In the next post please include more hypersensitive whining. This is, by far, the most developed and prominent aspect of your writing style and should be even more opulently highlighted.

By: alittlecoffee

alittlecoffee — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 21:41:12 +0000

Ugh, being gay isn’t a “decision” and there’s no reason you should expect to be asked about your sexuality after answering a question about what you’re reading currently, even if your response is not gender-stereotypical.

Honestly I think you should not respond at all. If you must, I’d say something like what Sarah Joy suggested. But I wouldn’t go out of my way to get into an ideological debate over Facebook email with an ignoramus who probably won’t get the point anyway, she’ll just think you’re being overly sensitive.