Comments on: Why Men Don’t Want To Date Strong Women

By: Spicy82

Spicy82 — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 06:57:52 +0000

There need to be more like you!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 12:50:04 +0000

“I’m lucky to have her as a friend.”

Friend. I suppose that says it all, doesn’t it?

Thing is, women don’t generally want guys who aren’t their equals or better in some crucial aspects. I used to get upset about being a girl who usually ends up in the friend zone, but then I figured out that this was a kind of illusion.

Strong women who have it in perspective and aren’t overly pushy are the kind of women men have always wanted to marry. Because so many people are into casual sex or have the wrong ideas about dating and marriage, it looks like we’re being left out, but we’re not. We’re just not suitable for guys who aren’t ready.

When a guy comes along who is ready though, your life changes quickly, to say the least. When you meet that special guy (and there are many despite the hype), who sees you as a kitten even if you can bench press him or got better scores in maths, you find you were better off being yourself.

By: Tarrbot

Tarrbot — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 05:24:19 +0000

This article is just full of trite excuses.

A strong person (male or female) will be able to handle themselves in a whole country full of strong people.

What strong people don’t want to deal with is untenable situations. It’s so much easier to remove yourself from a situation where the other party is so overbearing that it’s not even worth bothering with.

Life isn’t all roses, why intentionally surround yourself with thorns all the time?

Jeez, that’s just common sense.

And the whole “Elizabeth was acting like a man” line is just completely BS. Yes, men are “more known” to act this way but that’s because men are typically shown more in aggressive sports than women… or did there suddenly become a Women’s NFL and did the WNBA get widespread coverage? No, it did not.

Elizabeth’s actions were not normal even in an aggressive male sport. They were poor sportsmanship and poor sporstmanship is a sign of a weak sportsman–one that is inferior.

In short, she was a complete wanking twat trying to “win” by playing outside of the rules… something a 3 year old does when playing a board game.

By: beentheredonethat

beentheredonethat — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 13:45:58 +0000

This article is bull. A confident man is able to hold his own with a strong woman; the men that prefer the “sugar and spice” type are those that lack any sort of self-esteem themselves.

By: amy s.

amy s. — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 02:57:27 +0000

Simon, that behavior is shocking regardless of who it comes from. There’s no way I’d go anywhere near a man who behaved in that manner. The women who do find it acceptable wind up in hospital themselves and castigated for loving abusive men.

Learn to tell the difference between strong and abusive.

By: amy s.

amy s. — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 02:55:28 +0000

Uh, no. Lambert’s not a strong woman; she’s a thug. If you’re enjoying that, you have a serious problem.

There are plenty of strong and principled women in just about any field you care to name, athletic or otherwise. I suggest you learn the difference between an abusive piece of garbage and a woman worth spending your time on.

By: Jeremy Nicoll

Jeremy Nicoll — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 04:47:03 +0000

I for one like strong women, but those that have to prove they are strong are anything but. If they truly are confident in their abilities they really don’t have to bash the guy over the head with them. I think this is what you were trying to get at with the comparison at the last.

By: Tyler Hayes

Tyler Hayes — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 04:45:46 +0000

Seth pointed me to this post. As usual, his recommendation has changed my day. In a good way.

Nothing constructive to add, just wanted to say I really liked this post. I wish I could say more than that but I just think it’s right on the money. Having dated strong women and less strong women, I prefer a strong, confident, outgoing woman. They are very hard to find, sadly. Though maybe that’s because I live in Minnesota, or just that it’s a trend that women feel the need to act less strong to appease men. I’m not qualified to answer that

Either way, great stuff. Thank you Simon.

By: Leslie Ellis

Leslie Ellis — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 04:44:52 +0000

As a woman with a very strong personality, I have come to realize exactly what Seth says: leave the weak women to the weak men! If a man can’t handle my personality, then I move on. Interesting point about “punch lists” used to prove how strong one is. I have never done that as it is evident when talking to me that I am strong and successful, etc. I don’t have anything to prove when on a date. Now in business, I better come across as knowing what I’m talking about (insurance) or I will be living on the street. No one wants to spend money with a wuss who doesn’t seem to have the proper knowledge.

Leslie Ellis
http://leslieellis.yolasite.com/

By: Global Misfit

Global Misfit — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 04:43:40 +0000

You’re a rockstar just for writing on this topic…thanks Seth. I feel pretty lucky to count men as some of the most passionate feminist voices in my life, it’s a beautiful (and highly sexy) thing!