Comments on: If Our First Date Went Well, Why Is She Avoiding Me? http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/ smart tips, better dates Mon, 08 Mar 2010 12:50:04 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Alexis http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-6035 Alexis Sun, 09 Aug 2009 15:48:12 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-6035 What if they don't call you at all? I went on a date and he came to my house and picked me up. We had lunch and then went to a baseball game. I figured that date would be done after the Braves game (though we had a great time, shared food, laughs and a couple gazs) but instead he asked if I wanted to go to dinner and a movie. We ended up going to a movie, then ice cream. We sat for an hour eating ice cream and talking. After that we both talked about what a great time we had and talked a little on myspace but I haven't heard from him again. I know he's shy because he's definately more forward in texts then in real life but my phone broke so I have no texts. The point is, he persued me for a while, we went out, he initiated the extra events then nothing. Nothing at all. What if they don’t call you at all? I went on a date and he came to my house and picked me up. We had lunch and then went to a baseball game. I figured that date would be done after the Braves game (though we had a great time, shared food, laughs and a couple gazs) but instead he asked if I wanted to go to dinner and a movie. We ended up going to a movie, then ice cream. We sat for an hour eating ice cream and talking. After that we both talked about what a great time we had and talked a little on myspace but I haven’t heard from him again. I know he’s shy because he’s definately more forward in texts then in real life but my phone broke so I have no texts. The point is, he persued me for a while, we went out, he initiated the extra events then nothing. Nothing at all.

]]> By: Seth http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-2451 Seth Fri, 08 May 2009 04:15:39 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-2451 100%. Open communication is the best way to go. Sure, it's good to know how to say things in a positive way...but it's always best to get out of a situation that isn't headed anywhere good! 100%. Open communication is the best way to go. Sure, it’s good to know how to say things in a positive way…but it’s always best to get out of a situation that isn’t headed anywhere good!

]]> By: russruggles http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1366 russruggles Mon, 06 Apr 2009 00:05:21 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-1366 I think @mikethemasterdater is right on. It's for the best that this didn't work out. On the other hand, this made me think of times I had been on dates where I had a pretty good time, but just wasn't into it. I didn't let on about that, and didn't call back. I ned to stop doing that! I think @mikethemasterdater is right on. It’s for the best that this didn’t work out. On the other hand, this made me think of times I had been on dates where I had a pretty good time, but just wasn’t into it. I didn’t let on about that, and didn’t call back. I ned to stop doing that!

]]> By: Pam Robertson http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-972 Pam Robertson Sat, 07 Mar 2009 22:46:16 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-972 The thing that really got me in this post Seth was the sushi - I love sushi and there are few places here to get it. But as to dating, I bought into the "he's just not that into you" thing and figured it was just that when this fellow didn't call me after about 6 dates, when I was just about head over heels in love with him. I heard on the grapevine he had met the woman of his dreams at the time, so let it go. About 15 years later, I ran into him. We had a rather awkward chat, but followed it up with a coffee. He apologized for leaving me in the cold, and said it had bothered him off and on for years, but he never knew how to get in touch with me. It was sweet, and not just a little bit satisfying that it had bugged him. One never knows what is really going on in someone else's head - or heart for that matter. The thing that really got me in this post Seth was the sushi – I love sushi and there are few places here to get it. But as to dating, I bought into the “he’s just not that into you” thing and figured it was just that when this fellow didn’t call me after about 6 dates, when I was just about head over heels in love with him. I heard on the grapevine he had met the woman of his dreams at the time, so let it go. About 15 years later, I ran into him. We had a rather awkward chat, but followed it up with a coffee. He apologized for leaving me in the cold, and said it had bothered him off and on for years, but he never knew how to get in touch with me. It was sweet, and not just a little bit satisfying that it had bugged him. One never knows what is really going on in someone else’s head – or heart for that matter.

]]> By: Seth http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-908 Seth Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:37:33 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-908 @Henie - you are so very quotable! =) @Michelle - Hmm, that's possibly why I also argue for more honest communication in spite of any perceived risk! By distraction from one's real life...you're still online at that point, right? I don't see how you could possibly know for certain without face-to-face interactions. There's only so much you can know without body language. @Henie – you are so very quotable! =)

@Michelle – Hmm, that’s possibly why I also argue for more honest communication in spite of any perceived risk!

By distraction from one’s real life…you’re still online at that point, right? I don’t see how you could possibly know for certain without face-to-face interactions. There’s only so much you can know without body language.

]]> By: Michelle http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-897 Michelle Mon, 02 Mar 2009 06:33:11 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-897 You know...I always enjoy your posts, but this is one that leaves me with some questions. First- this goes both ways...I think women often aren't sure what to make of what a man is thinking either. One of the major reasons I am rather anti-dating myself (my LTR have pretty much all grown from friendships,) is that I find the entire process of dating to be emotionally exhausting, and prefer to focus on making friends. Second- in this day of online interaction, social media, and virtual access, how do you know when the same guy (or girl) is truly interested in you, or when you are simply a distraction from his "real life?" Your writing truly is delightful =) You know…I always enjoy your posts, but this is one that leaves me with some questions. First- this goes both ways…I think women often aren’t sure what to make of what a man is thinking either. One of the major reasons I am rather anti-dating myself (my LTR have pretty much all grown from friendships,) is that I find the entire process of dating to be emotionally exhausting, and prefer to focus on making friends. Second- in this day of online interaction, social media, and virtual access, how do you know when the same guy (or girl) is truly interested in you, or when you are simply a distraction from his “real life?”

Your writing truly is delightful =)

]]> By: Henie http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-896 Henie Mon, 02 Mar 2009 06:12:59 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-896 Just me, the PP-girl bouncing back in to say... "Friendship is the best springboard for the greatest love affair!" ~Henie~ Just me, the PP-girl bouncing back in to say…

“Friendship is the best springboard for the greatest love affair!” ~Henie~

]]> By: Seth http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-891 Seth Mon, 02 Mar 2009 02:34:00 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-891 Ahhh, so you're just hanging out then? If it's killing you and you MUST know...sometime when you're both sober and just chilling, hop in his lap, facing him, get *really* close, and continue your conversation. If he pushes you away, you have your answer. If not...keep going. And now you can't say I never told you to try something crazy! =) It's great that you know how to enjoy a friendship. I think we'd all do well to increase our abilities in that area. Good on you, Misty! Seth Ahhh, so you’re just hanging out then? If it’s killing you and you MUST know…sometime when you’re both sober and just chilling, hop in his lap, facing him, get *really* close, and continue your conversation. If he pushes you away, you have your answer. If not…keep going.

And now you can’t say I never told you to try something crazy! =)

It’s great that you know how to enjoy a friendship. I think we’d all do well to increase our abilities in that area. Good on you, Misty!

Seth

]]> By: Misty Belardo http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-889 Misty Belardo Mon, 02 Mar 2009 02:20:31 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-889 Hi again Seth, yes exactly wait for what.. to be honest, I no longer wait nor expect anything. I just enjoy the friendships. At the on set I was hoping for the relationship to grow deeper, become a couple. Thank you for this great post. Can't wait for the next. Hi again Seth, yes exactly wait for what.. to be honest, I no longer wait nor expect anything. I just enjoy the friendships. At the on set I was hoping for the relationship to grow deeper, become a couple. Thank you for this great post. Can’t wait for the next.

]]> By: Seth http://thedatingpapers.com/why-she-doesnt-want-a-second-date/comment-page-1/#comment-884 Seth Sun, 01 Mar 2009 17:36:50 +0000 http://thedatingpapers.com/?p=480#comment-884 @Misty - should you wait...how long...for what? What are you expecting out of it? @Misty – should you wait…how long…for what?

What are you expecting out of it?

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